On Cis Het Assumptions

In the M/M romance genre as elsewhere in life, it’s presumed that the majority (both readers and writers) are cisgender heterosexual individuals. However, my personal experience suggests otherwise: Beyond gay cis men, a host of queer (largely bisexual, pansexual, or demisexual) individuals populate this space, many of them non-binary or…

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How to Accept Your Ignorance Gracefully

hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil

You’re ignorant. I know, it hurts to hear. I’m ignorant too. I’m not talking about not knowing when to use their or there, though. I’m talking about intersections of power and privilege. Our ignorance of lives other than our own. Our soul-deep, fundamental self-absorption, the kind every human–yes, even my…

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